How Long Does Pet Loss Grief Last? What’s Normal and What Helps

Written By Kimberly Blair

One of the most common questions people ask after losing a pet is:

“How long is this going to hurt?”

The honest—and sometimes frustrating—answer is this:

Pet loss grief has no fixed timeline.

As a practitioner offering pet loss grief counseling in San Diego, I often reassure clients that grief is not something to complete—it’s something to integrate.

Why There Is No Timeline for Pet Loss Grief

Grief unfolds differently for everyone because it is influenced by:

  • The depth of the bond

  • The circumstances of the loss

  • Past unresolved grief

  • Nervous system sensitivity

  • Level of social support

Trying to “measure” grief often creates more suffering.

👉 This is why grief counseling focuses on process, not pace.
Grief & Loss

The Phases of Pet Loss Grief (Non-Linear)

While grief doesn’t follow stages neatly, people often experience waves such as:

Shock & Disbelief

Even when a loss is expected, the nervous system may struggle to accept it.

Acute Grief

Crying, yearning, sadness, and physical symptoms are common.

Integration

Moments of peace begin to appear—alongside grief.

Continued Bond

Love remains, but pain softens.

You may move back and forth between these phases. This is normal.

Signs Your Grief May Be Stuck

While grief doesn’t need fixing, support can be helpful if you notice:

  • Persistent insomnia

  • Panic or anxiety

  • Emotional numbness

  • Avoidance of reminders

  • Inability to function day-to-day

👉 Modalities like hypnotherapy can help when grief loops become overwhelming.
Hypnotherapy

What Actually Helps Pet Loss Grief Heal

Being Witnessed

Grief softens when it’s seen and honored.

Somatic Regulation

Reiki and breathwork calm the nervous system so grief can move.

👉 Reiki

Meaning-Making

Honoring your pet’s life helps integrate loss without erasing love.

Time + Support

Healing is not passive—it’s supported.

👉 Learn more about the Pet Loss Grief Program.

Frequently Asked Questions

How long does pet loss grief usually last?

There’s no “usual.” Some people feel acute grief for months, others longer.

Is it normal to still grieve years later?

Yes—especially during anniversaries or life changes.

Should I be “over it” by now?

There is no expiration date on love.

Can counseling help even if it’s been a long time?

Absolutely. Grief can be supported at any stage.

Grief Softens When It’s Supported

You don’t need to rush your healing—or do it alone.

If you’re grieving the loss of a beloved pet and wondering what support could look like, I invite you to book a complimentary wellness consultation.

👉 Book a Complimentary Consultation
👉 Contact The Guides Holistic Therapies


Kimberly Blair
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